Married Mondays

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I’m supposed to be writing a Married Mondays post but I’m way too angry at my husband to think straight and write a post on the joys of newly wedded bliss. The actual point of conflict isn’t relevant anymore given that I’ve calmed down, but it got me thinking. Was I the only one that felt this way when I get upset with the husband? More pressingly and what had me worried, was it too soon to be getting mad at him? When does the statute of limitations end for getting upset when you are a newly wed? Was I getting mad too quickly? Was the magic wearing off?! Is our honeymoon period officially over?! Aren't we still in escrow?!
I decided to do some research and I found a few articles that really struck a chord and helped alleviate my anxiety. 
I found this article a young newly wed has written that had me shouting ‘me too’ at several points. 
Then I found this,  an article from a man’s perspective, someone that has done a little time
(get it? #prisontalk #shitgotreal) in the married world :
  
This article is written by a licensed marriage therapist.

 Full disclosure : I heaved a sigh of relief when I noticed some points on there that I identified with.
As I read through the articles, one thing became blaringly obvious to me. Every couple has a different rhythm. As clichéd as this may sound, what works for some won’t work for others. I think the most important thing at the end of the day is to listen. Listen to all the advice, all the ideas, all the stories.  But then. 
Listen to yourself. Listen to your partner. Actually hear what the other person has to say. And I think we will have all our answers then.
If that doesn't work, watch A Walk to Remember. That puts things into perspective real fast. 
 I've seen the movie a million times, but one of my favorite parts is when her father recites a verse at the end of the movie. It pretty much sums it up doesn't it folks: 
Corinthians 13:4-
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
~Rumi

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