HOW TO REPLY TO YOUR BFF'S LOVE NOTE

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If you haven’t read Ray’s sweet ode to our mutually parasitically symbiotic co-dependentok love already, you need to. Go read it now. Here. Here. Or here. Just kidding. All the links lead to the same post.... or do they? 

Now.

I would like to clear the record and make a few things known to the general public. From here on out, this will be on public record, for all of posterity.


1.  We met the summer before I started Med School. Ray refutes this claim vigorously but I’m right. I am 100% sure Ray.

2. It’s crazy how in tune we are. Which is scary because 
a. we’re both crazy
 b. what does that say about ourselves if we are drawn/attract crazy? 
Scary.

3. Ray’s post is now going to make us fight because 
a. I believe in nazar
 b. she does not
 c. we will fight because 
A1.we got nazar  
A2. We did not get nazar but we still fight about the existence of nazar   
So see,
It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. And at the end of the day, we still fought. 
So hah. Hah Ray. Hah.  We fought. All your fault. 
Happy now?
4.     We are still bad at fighting. We just laugh. And then get frustrated. It took us awhile to finally understand and figure things out but here are the things we figured (kinda) out:
(which was actually the title of Ray's post but she never did tell us, so here I am picking up Ray's slack as usual) 
(If you've followed us for longer than minute you know that's not true. Ray is always picking up my slack. #alltoothgrin) 



 a.     like any other relationship, communication is key. No matter how in tune you are, no matter how deep the soul mating is happening – no one is a mind reader. Yes, you might know when the other person is mad or upset, and you might know exactly why, but take the time to ask or express the point of contention. Talk for God sakes. We would talk about everything else under the sun but when we were mad, pin drop silence. Such idiots we are.
b.     Listen to understand. Don’t listen to argue back or form your next point. It’s not about winning anything. It’s about communicating ur angst and hopefully making the other person understand where you are coming from. If they aren’t willing to listen with the right intent, things will get evil real fast.
c.     Don’t call quits on something that has worked so well for so long. At least not without giving it your all. Until there is not a shred of doubt in your mind that the relationship has truly and irrevocably died. Don’t give up because you are tired, or over it, or think the grass is greener on the other side.
d.     Don’t be afraid to take a time out. Distance does make the heart grow fonder. And it’ll stop you from saying things you don’t mean in the heat of the moment. Just take a step back and don’t engage. Calm down. THINK THEN ACT.

e.     Trust in your sense of judgement. Trust in your heart. You connect with someone for a reason. All you need to do is figure out if that reason is for good or evil. Whether or not they are using that amazing connection with you for good or evil.  Yes. Really. Good or evil. Figure it out. You will know the answer. 

~Rumi 

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